My husband and I were walking along the Rhine in Munich and my husband was dead silent. I kept thinking why isn’t he saying anything, this feels like an awkward silences.
The only thing I could think to say was “What are you thinking about?” “Nothing really” he says, and silence again. Frustrated I asked him why he was being so quiet, and angrily he said that he was hungry. Well, I learned something new that day. My husband gets quiet and touchy when he is hungry.
This isnt a bad quality per se, just a part of my husbands personality. Here are 5 tips to help avoid tension and anger when traveling with your significant other.
- Know your spouse and understand their moods
Knowing your spouses stressors makes it easier to avoid unnecessary arguments and fights. Knowing their mood will allow you to recognize when it is time to give them some space, and when to be there for them if they are struggling.
- Take turns making decisions
Everyone wants to feel equal in a relationship, and your trip might quickly take a turn for the worse if someone else is always calling the shots on what you do. Taking turns deciding what to do on your trip will make sure that both of you get to do things that appeal to you.
- Make some “me” time
Just because you are traveling together does not mean that you have to spend every second together. If you want to kick back and watch TV in the hotel room while your partner wants to walk on the beach and take pictures, that is OK.
- Avoid over-planning
Rushing from one thing to another can cause a lot of stress in your trip. Something unexpected is bound to happen and you want to make sure you have some flexibility to deal with it. Likewise, you might find a new adventure once you are on your trip that you won’t be able to take part in if you have your time 100% booked.
- Put down your phone
Have you ever tried to hang out with someone who doesn’t look up from their phone. It is very annoying, and very rude, and can cause a lack of intimacy between you and your partner . Put down your phone and start a conversation.